Losing Your Story

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I'm often asked in my practice by prospective clients if I think I can help them. It's a fair question but one I know is not always easy to answer. I usually refer to the hundreds of people that I have helped and how much they were able to change their own lives and find joy. 

The other day I was asked this same question over dinner and the person went on to tell me a 30 minute story about what they had gone through in the past decade. I marveled at how well she told this story. It was as though it had been rehearsed hundreds of times and was constantly being tweaked so that it would be an even better, while still sad, story about her life. She even preempted the sad part with "this is the part that usually makes me cry". I knew this person wanted help but I wasn't sure I could help her because it suddenly dawned on me how important it was for her to tell her story.

Her story was something she had memorized with every cell of her body. It's who she was and how she defined herself. To enter into the realm of change would mean losing her story.

Funny, I was asked the other day by an acquaintance, 'tell me about yourself?' and I had no idea where to start. Should I start with childhood and all the negative parts of growing up with a dysfunctional family? This person already knew I was an Energy Coach so it wouldn't make sense to start there. Should I talk about my schooling or my career in the airline industry? And then the thought came in like lightening, I was no longer my story. I no longer had a story that I told over and over again. My story was constantly evolving.

If there's one thing I've learned it's that when you continue to tell your story over and over again to whoever will listen you can be sure of one thing, your cells are listening to every word. And every time you tell your story you give the message to your cells to behave just like they did when the story first began. You begin pumping out the same chemicals of anger or sadness, or grief or whatever it was. Your subconscious can't tell the difference between a real event happening now and reliving the event of your past. So every time you tell your story you are in fact living in the emotions your past!

The only way to move forward in your life is to begin to detach from your story. Write a book if you don't want it forgotten but you can't live in the now if you're still living in the past.

Over the years I've helped hundreds of people lose their stories and become smiling, vibrant beings of beautifulness! Let me walk that path with YOU!